“This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.” – Shakespeare
“Betrayal of yourself in order not to betray another is betrayal nonetheless. Indeed, it is the highest betrayal.” – Conversations with God
What does it mean to be true to yourself? It seems like such a simple concept, and at its heart, it is. Being true to yourself means honoring your own heart and living in your truth, even if it’s different from those around you. God created you, and you are just as you are meant to be. By living out your truth in this lifetime, you let your light shine as you were meant to do, and you free others to do the same.
This seemingly simple concept can be hard when faced with the expectations and wishes of those around us. Honoring your truth in community and in relationship brings up all sorts interesting dilemmas. How will other people feel? How will this affect my relationships? I’ve found that the answer to these questions is simple: your relationship to yourself and to God is number one. When you choose to honor what is true for you, people’s expectations may be upended, but eventually, your choice made for your highest good will benefit all of those around you.
It’s a daily practice in my life. I feel the weight of other people’s wishes very strongly, and it has taken years for me to take baby steps towards honoring my own. It helps me to get clear about my truth and to pray for a gentle path as I express it. I try not to imagine the worst outcomes, as I am prone to do. Instead I imagine these issues from a heavenly perspective, where we are all here to express and fulfill our soul paths.
Wishing you peace today as you live out your truth. You are meant to shine exactly as you are.
Having patience can be so hard in healing, and so important. Trust that your time will come, and that your healing will come. Whatever it is that you’re waiting for, let yourself sit with it. Don’t distract yourself with substances and chemicals and shows and Twitter – let yourself sit and be. Whatever it is that you’re waiting for will come. If you could see from above, you would see how everything is interconnected and happening at the right time. I’ve had to learn to be patient, and when I could not see how things would ever work out, somehow they worked out just perfectly, eventually. Wishing you patience today.
It takes practice to trust your inner guidance. From the time we were young, we were told to trust the outer world over our own instincts. Being asked to do things we didn’t want to do, being pressured to conform to a world that was often out of line with our own truths, we lost ourselves. Yet that inner guidance is always there. It may be a muscle out of shape, but you can still uncover it and learn to rely on it.
When you get still, you will be able to hear your inner guidance. Practice centering yourself in stillness and bring your awareness to your heart. It will guide you. You may also practice automatic writing. You may also pray. But mostly, you must get still. Then, once you hear your inner guidance –listen to it! What is your first instinct? Go with that. Before any learned thought patterns or reactions come through.
Your inner guidance is your homing mechanism that comes from God. It may seem far from your daily world. It may be asking you to let certain people go. It may be asking you to do something that seems different from what you’re used to, but if it’s your true inner guidance, it will be easy to follow – “my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” It will bring you to a place of greater peace. Following your inner guidance leads you to love.