First and foremost, trust yourself. Trust your intuition, your mind, your feelings, and your experiences. That is an area I’ve struggled with since the beginning. I had a hard time trusting my own experience about what I went through as a child, and an equally hard time trusting my experience of God as a young adult. I wanted someone else to tell me what it all meant, because honestly, that is the world I was raised in. I was not raised to trust my own experience, but that of others, especially “experts.”
Other people are wonderful and can be great teachers and guides, but they are not you. You are here to learn about your own heart, and create your own world. You can learn what is true for you by getting still and sitting in silence until you can hear your own heart. That is the best voice to trust. Your own.
If you feel you need guidance or help, ask a close friend or family member who you know has your best interests at heart, but know, as I often didn’t, that they still have their own life, their own experiences, and their own goals and dreams. They may be able to help you, but the final choice and path is yours. Above all else, trust yourself.
It’s been easy for me to fall into the trap of letting other people define my experiences for me, especially when it comes to defining my spirituality and God. When I first had my experience of God, I believed what other people told me about it, more than I believed my own experience. That’s been a big part of my path and a huge learning area for me. My experiences are mine – other people’s perspectives can be really helpful, but they can’t tell me what I feel, believe, or see.
I spent a lot of time talking with a few trusted mentors about my experience. Looking back, I wish I had been brave enough to keep it to myself. I was too afraid that I was going crazy to stay silent, and I needed to talk about it to make sure I was ok. The few people I talked to about it helped me feel grounded, and thankfully, blessedly, helped me to learn that it was not “crazy” to have a spiritual experience. They were very encouraging and helpful.
But they could not understand how much it changed me, and how much it meant to me. It was my soul connecting to God, and that was life-transforming. Sometimes I feel that talking about it cheapens that – there’s no way to communicate in words the depth of my transformation, except for a person to have their own life-changing experience of God and of love.
Trusting your experience doesn’t just apply to your spiritual reality, but also to your relationships, jobs, truths, and life. I wish you the courage and strength to trust your own experience today and to honor it, with love.