I wrote last week about loving yourself, but today I want to write about how showing love to others is a way to show love to ourselves. When you see past someone’s pain and mistakes into their light within, you are also seeing your own inner light. When you love others by giving them blessings and joy, you also give blessings and joy to yourself. “What you do to another, you to do yourself. What you fail to do for another, you fail to do to yourself” (Conversations with God). Or, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matthew 7:12). Loving another person is akin to loving yourself, because we are all one.
How can we show love to others? Well, it helps to know what they need, and each person has their own needs. Your partner may need a different kind of love from your child, but it’s all love. It is also possible to show love by embodying love for them, by centering your heart in a loving place and sharing that love with them. I do this now with my family and friends and with the children I work with. I practice this in my daily life as I encounter people throughout my day in different parts of the city. I practice showing love to the homeless and to people in need.
When I bless others with love, I feel that love lift me up and make me whole. I hope you have a chance to show love today.
What does it mean to love yourself? It means to sit in a space of love for yourself and embrace yourself in all of your manifestations. Learning to love myself has been a vital part of my healing journey. It’s a step I often overlook and that I think seems a little selfish sometimes, if I’m being honest. But feeling love for myself in the face of difficulty, anger, sadness, and stress, helps me remember who I am. It helps me remember that God created me, and that I’m loved exactly the way I am.
Some of the ways I practice loving myself include saying “I love myself” as a mantra, as well as saying “God loves me.” I also breathe and sit in stillness and pray to feel love, and to feel God’s love, which usually helps me feel love right away. I also practice showing others that they are loved, which allows me to feel love too. As it is said in Conversations with God, “what you do for another, you do for yourself. What you fail to do for another, you fail to do for yourself.” Helping another feel love will necessarily help you feel love too!
I forgot how to love myself after my trauma. The hatred and vitriol I experienced left me lost in a sea of anger, rage, and sadness. I was cut off from myself, from God, from love, and from light. Every time I consciously love myself now, I return a part of my heart to God’s heart, and to love. It can take time and practice, but it’s possible. Loving yourself can make many of life’s problems seem more manageable and less overwhelming. Wishing you love today and every day.
You must believe in yourself and your vision if it’s going to come about. No one can believe in you for you. You may have cheerleaders, and you always have God & your angels, but the most important person who must believe in you is you.
Believe in yourself by saying positive messages to yourself. I am worthy. I am loving. I love myself. My dreams are coming true. I am healed, whole, and healthy. My life is full. My life is beautiful. I can do anything I put my mind to.
Believe in yourself by connecting your heart to the Big Heart of God. Sit in silence and ask your heart to be opened to God’s heart. Breathe and be still. Stay present and feel your heart open. No one can do this for you but you. When you connect your heart to God’s heart, you will know you are loved and supported.
Believe in yourself by surrounding yourself with your support system.Your support system are people who love you and believe in you. There may only be a few people in your support system, or there may be many more. These are people who will champion your vision for yourself and believe in you.
Believe in yourself because you are a holy child of God, and you are worth it.