Forgiving Yourself

What does it mean to forgive yourself? In my life, forgiving myself means returning my heart to the true love of God, stopping the negative self-talk reels that can loop again and again in my mind, and having a soft approach to myself and my heart. It can be so easy to be so hard on ourselves when we’re faced with past mistakes and let downs, but we all need to remember that we’re all here to learn, grow, and become. We weren’t born knowing everything – that’s why we were born. 

“Hurt people, hurt people.” – Will Bowen

This wise quote has truly helped me to remember that the times when I’d acted out and hurt others in the past were truly out of my own pain and sadness and not out of a desire to hurt others. I was in too much pain, and that it turn caused me to make others feel pain. 

If there are times in your life that you’re having a hard time forgiving yourself for, have some compassion for yourself. Do the best you can to halt the negative self-talk and hold yourself in love. Be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself. If it seems appropriate and right, you can reach out to the person you’ve hurt and ask for forgiveness. Whether or not you’ve made amends, you can still come to a place of peace towards yourself as a child of God.

Some concrete ways I’ve done this have been:

  • Mentally walking myself through the situation, blessing and shining light on it, and asking for healing for everyone involved
  • Saying positive affirmations to myself when I find myself reliving difficult situations
  • Breathing & meditating
  • Praying to God and the angels

I hope these thoughts help you! You can forgive yourself. You are a perfect human on a beautiful journey. Be gentle towards yourself.

Tools of the Spirit

I recently had someone reach out to me feeling overwhelmed about the world of healing. She said that she had purchased some crystals and books on chakras, but felt out of her league. I totally identified because I had definitely been there when I started healing. There are so many facets of spirituality and healing, so many schools of thought, and seemingly so much to learn, that it can feel daunting. What if I do it wrong? What if I’m not good at healing? Other people seemed to know so much more than I, and I often felt confused about what was up and what was down in the beginning. 

It took me many turns, many hiccups and some confusion to return to the truth of my experience with God. When my experience first happened, I spent time with different healers trying different practices and trying to understand what the heck had happened to me. I still felt like I needed outside validation to understand it. All of these people taught me a lot, but it took a fair amount time to turn back towards myself and realize that I had everything I needed to learn on the inside. 

Eventually I’ve learned that my heart is just as sacred as anyone else’s, and my inner light comes from God just like the rest of us. Love lies at the center of who we are. Uncovering that love and connecting to it as often as possible is truly the purpose of healing. Yes, tools can be useful, but they are only tools – they can never replace you or your heart, or your connection to God and God’s love. So go ahead and use the tools as a gateway to remembering the truth of who you are, but don’t be intimidated by them.

I wish you a beautiful day filled with love, and a Happy Halloween!

Video: Creating Meaningful Rituals

Hello and happy Sunday! In the midst of an intense week I got to thinking about the importance of daily ritual. Rituals help us stay connected to our hearts, to love, and to God’s peace. Here’s my weekly video on just that topic. Do you have a favorite ritual that keeps you connected? What keeps you close to love?

Psychology and Spirituality

I’ve been thinking a lot about the intersection of psychology and spirituality. I know the field of psychology has many facets, branches, and offshoots, so I’m not speaking about all of psychology, merely the approach with which I am most familiar. You probably know that I was raised by a psychologist and spent a lot of my youth in therapy. I appreciate greatly the help I received from the field of psychology and from psychologists. In fact, I’m considering studying psychology at a graduate level.

And yet, when it comes to healing, I felt there was no talk or exploration, at least in my experience, of the aspect of my journey which healed me most of all – that of connecting to God and a spiritual reality. I wish there had been that opportunity in the time I spent in therapy. Finding a spiritual center and connecting to God’s love was definitely the most healing thing that ever happened to me. And yet, some in the field might dismiss my experiences as delusions. 

I’ve found solace in some very forward-thinking psychologists, like the Spirituality Mind Body Institute at my alma mater Teachers College with Dr. Lisa Miller. It’s very comforting to see how many in the field are changing or are already embracing a holistic view of healing, and I hope that more people continue to bridge the worlds between psychology and spirituality. It can be an easy bridge to cross, as the two approaches really do go hand in hand.

That’s my two cents, and what was on my mind today. Have you had experiences you feel you couldn’t talk about in therapy? Did you have a therapist who was open to exploring spirituality with you? Or somewhere in between?

Wishing you healing today and every day.

Video: Meditation

Enjoy my weekly Sunday video where I discuss meditation and its importance, and how it has helped me heal and connect to myself and my heart. Wishing you a peaceful night, with love.

Meditation with Heal with Rebecca

Being True to Yourself

“This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.” – Shakespeare

“Betrayal of yourself in order not to betray another is betrayal nonetheless. Indeed, it is the highest betrayal.” – Conversations with God

What does it mean to be true to yourself? It seems like such a simple concept, and at its heart, it is. Being true to yourself means honoring your own heart and living in your truth, even if it’s different from those around you. God created you, and you are just as you are meant to be. By living out your truth in this lifetime, you let your light shine as you were meant to do, and you free others to do the same.  

This seemingly simple concept can be hard when faced with the expectations and wishes of those around us. Honoring your truth in community and in relationship brings up all sorts interesting dilemmas. How will other people feel? How will this affect my relationships? I’ve found that the answer to these questions is simple: your relationship to yourself and to God is number one. When you choose to honor what is true for you, people’s expectations may be upended, but eventually, your choice made for your highest good will benefit all of those around you. 

It’s a daily practice in my life. I feel the weight of other people’s wishes very strongly, and it has taken years for me to take baby steps towards honoring my own. It helps me to get clear about my truth and to pray for a gentle path as I express it. I try not to imagine the worst outcomes, as I am prone to do. Instead I imagine these issues from a heavenly perspective, where we are all here to express and fulfill our soul paths. 

Wishing you peace today as you live out your truth. You are meant to shine exactly as you are

Video: Releasing Skepticism

Hello & Happy Sunday! Here’s your weekly video. This week’s topic is about letting go of skepticism. Did you encounter this in your own journey? Skepticism can be good, but it can also hinder us when exploring our spiritual side. Here are some ways I learned to move past my own skepticism. Enjoy!