Allowing Others to Change

When someone has hurt us in the past, it is easy to hold those painful memories in our minds about what that other person has done. But what if that person changes? We can give them the great gift of letting those old mental pictures go. We can let them be their new selves by seeing the highest good in them. 

I am actively practicing letting old memories of others go by centering my heart in love and shrugging off painful past moments. I am seeing them as they are in this moment, and embracing the new vision they have of themselves. I can see a new way. I can help them, and myself, on the path towards love by releasing moments held in the past. 

The person I’m most working on this with right now is my mom. She has made major and drastic changes in her life since I was a child and has actively healed herself. And yet, my child mind often clings to those old painful moments from childhood. When I ground myself into the present and open my heart while maintaining healthy boundaries, I can see the new person my mom has become. I can release old past hurts like cleaning dust out of the attic. I let the light back in for both of us. 

Being OK with Change

It can be hard to change. When you are on a healing path, you may be called to change quite a bit from the person you were last year, last week, or even yesterday. As you move into greater alignment with your heart, you may also feel called to make changes to support your evolving vision of yourself.

These changes may take the form of a new habit, or a new job, or a change in your relationship with another person. Over the years as I’ve healed, I’ve made so many changes in my life. Sometimes these changes made me feel embarrassed – what would other people think of me? I made some big changes in my career and also in my relationships. I’ve ended relationships that didn’t work when I felt very called to, and that was tough for both people. I’ve also completely shifted career courses to a career that was more in alignment with my dreams and desire to give back to others. Even writing this blog represents a big change from the self I show to the world around me.

Yet all of these changes in the outer world have had an inception with my heart. They feel like inner callings, and they all begin from within. The change in the outer world is just a continuation of my inner reality. Every time I have changed, life adjusts accordingly and catches up. And besides, it helps me to know that everyone around me is also going through their own changes. It’s the nature of life. 

I hope today gives you a chance to make positive changes to live more in alignment with your heart! Wishing you a happy day.