Staying Grounded

It’s taken a lot of work to help me learn how to stay grounded. When I was first traumatized, I survived by disassociating, or basically leaving my body. I didn’t know I was doing this until I began to do more in-depth healing work with bodywork and Reiki. Even therapy, which had many benefits, didn’t really help me too much to learn how to live in my body.

In addition to being traumatized, I had some spiritual inclinations. Honestly I believe that these two things can go hand in hand. As one healer I worked with put it, “when the physical world doesn’t take care of you, the spiritual world does.” Or as the Bible says, “When you are weak, God is strong.” Both my trauma and my spiritual sense led to a tendency for me to become ungrounded. It seemed so much safer and nicer away from my body.

On top of that, our modern society with its prevalence of screens, smart phones and technology also encourage ungroundedness. And honestly, it’s ok to become ungrounded. It’s not a bad thing. But for me to fully heal, I had to learn how to fully live in my body. As with most things, this is still something I work on. 

Some techniques that help me are breathing, any kind of mind-body movement (yoga, mindful movement, pilates – whatever floats your boat), being in nature, and practicing feeling my feet on the floor. I like to do a body scan where I focus internally on my body, as well as chakra visualizations, where I imagine bright light shining into each chakra. I kind of do my own thing with this as I feel called to, which can end up being really powerful. 

Being grounded can take work, and can feel scary at first, but I felt I could only truly heal once I learned to feel safe in my body. It has helped me feel alive and claim my space, and is allowing me to create a life I truly love, right here and now.

On that note, I’ll leave you with an awesome article I happened to read this morning, about the use of somatic experiencing in healing trauma. I haven’t tried this technique formally but it sounds extremely helpful.

What do you do to stay grounded? Thank you for reading and I’m wishing you safety and beauty today & always!

Staying Calm in the Storm

Staying calm in the midst of difficult and stressful situations is a life skill I continue to work on daily. At the beginning of my life, I had a very hard time staying calm at all. I had anxiety and headaches, even stress-related stomach ulcers when I was just in grade school. It’s taken a fair amount of practice, but I’ve gotten a lot better at staying peaceful during challenging times. Here are some of my favorite calming practices.  

The first and best one is to breathe. It sounds so easy, until I forget to do it! Like anything, these techniques need to be put into practice, not just read about. I love to read and think about all sorts of healing practices, but it doesn’t really help if I don’t actually do it. Breathing deeply and calmly for several minutes, or when in the midst of a stressful situation, helps me so much. 

I also like to pray. These can be prayers I make up, or prayers I’ve memorized. Sometimes I just ask God and the angels to be with me or to help me. Sometimes I say parts of the 23rd Psalm. It helps to clear my mind and return me to a peaceful place, especially if I’m feeling too overwhelmed and stressed out to meditate. 

And of course, writing helps me a lot, which is part of why I started this blog. I write short prayers and practice automatic writing to help me stay centered and see the bigger picture. I also love reading spiritual texts that are meaningful to me, especially Conversations with God. It helps me to remember my spiritual center and come back home to myself.

What are some of your favorite ways to stay calm? Wishing you a calm & peaceful night!