Reflections: Healing from the Center

Whether you are just beginning to heal, or are continuing on this journey, try to center yourself in your heart as much as possible. As I began healing, I did not know left from right or up from down. I did not know who I was or why I was here. It was important then, as always, for me to center myself in my heart, and to lead myself from there. It was the only truth in a world of untruths and unholy moments. Center yourself in your heart and you will be led to yourself. Center yourself in whatever urge you feel arising from your heart, and you will eventually find love. You were born to do this. You are beyond capable of healing. This is why you are here.

Reflections

If there is something your heart truly desires, trust that it will be made manifest in your life. This desire, this soul urge, comes from your heart, which comes from God. You may not be able to plan the circumstances. You may not see it coming. It may not look the way you expect it to look. Just trust that your dreams can and will come true. They are within you to be made real.

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Hello readers! I’ve decided to change up my blog format after some prayer and contemplation. I’ll be writing shorter daily thoughts Monday through Thursday, and a longer blog post on Fridays. I hope this new format suits you! As always, I sit in prayer before writing, and then write what I feel called to write from my heart.

Thank you so much for reading, as always.

Letting Yourself Change

When undertaking to follow your heart, you may feel called to change the outward circumstances of your life. You might be called to change a relationship or a job, or even where you live. You might feel compelled to change some friendships. It can seem hard to your mind to start showing up in a different way in the world, but if it is what your heart and soul is truly asking you for, making these changes will only result in more joy for you in the end.

Some of the things I’ve felt compelled to change since beginning this journey include my occupation, my orientation to work, my relationships, and where I live. These changes have happened in varying ways over the years. When I get deeper in my heart and my connection to God, even now, it can be scary to my ego. My ego wants everything to stay the same, to seem good, great, successful, and unwavering. Yet my heart is asking for more, for my true self – it yearns for connection, self-expression, and embodying God’s love here on earth. 

Making changes in your life based on your heart’s yearnings will lead you to your true self. You can begin to trust yourself by taking small steps towards your heart and making small changes. Ask God and your angels to guide you. You are here to let your true self shine forth. 

Free Choice

“Every single free choice you ever undertake arises out of one of the only two possible thoughts there are: a thought of love or a thought of fear. Every human thought, word, deed is based in one emotion or the other. You have no choice about this, because there is nothing else from which to choose. But you have free will about which of these you choose to select.”

Conversations with God, Book 1

I thought today would be a perfect day to explore freedom, in a spiritual sense. Freedom in the form of “free choice” is one of God’s great gifts and allows us to live out a life of our own choosing. We are always able to choose to create our lives, and to create them out of love or out of fear. Are we thinking, speaking, and acting in love, or in fear?

Which one is better to choose? Free will means that God does not punish for making choices out of fear. We are free to make these choices in however way we wish, but choices made in fear will result in more fear, and that really doesn’t feel too great. Choices made in love will result in more love and will grow to beautiful heights of peace, love, and joy. At least, that’s been my experience. 

Free choice can also be daunting, especially when faced with forks in the road. Which way are we to go? How can we make good choices? As always, getting still and feeling one’s inner guidance can help immensely. If that’s not easily determined, as it is sometimes not, just go with your best guess and pray for guidance along the way. 

Wishing you freedom and peace in your choices today and always.

Healing the Heart

Healing your heart starts with getting still and centered. Healing your heart is the path to the self and to joy. To heal the heart, begin by bringing awareness to your heart center. You will feel it with some attention and patience. There is your connection to God, and there you can feel great love once you’ve cleared the debris of your wounds.

I used to have a great deal of anger and sadness in my heart center. At first, I was unaware that it was even there. But once I began healing in earnest, I focused my energy on trying to feel my heart. I knew at a base level that it was covered up with something. I felt my heart to be somewhat detached and removed. It was not a great way to go through life but it was all I knew. I suspect I wasn’t the only one walking around removed from my heart.

Healing my heart meant listening to myself. To heal your heart, get still. Listen to yourself. Ask your angels, guides, and God to help you heal your heart. You will not be left alone. I believe you will be guided to your highest good and most holy healing. Your heart is your connection to God. Awakening that connection will allow you to live a fuller, truer, happier life – which is something you deserve, and were born for.

Staying Present

My childhood trauma, my angry parents, and our dissociated society in general taught me as a young child that life was easier if I could protect myself. For me, that meant learning how to emotionally, mentally, and spiritually detach myself from the people and places around me. I began dissociating, removing myself and my consciousness from the world around me. Of course, no one except the very smart healers could see that I was living away from my body and acting out my daily life as if my body were a puppet. I felt very far away from it all. It made me feel safe and helped me get through my daily life.

When I began to truly heal, I needed to learn how to invite myself back into my body and into the world around me. I needed to learn that I could be safe. This is a difficult concept because our physical world is never truly “safe,” and people of color, indigenous people, immigrants, LGBTQ+, women, and more, may never feel safe in their bodies in this world due to violence consistently perpetrated against these groups of people. This is something to be aware of as one heals. It is my true hope, however, that more people healing will mean a safer world for everyone. 

Without further ado, some of my favorite techniques for staying present and awake in my body and in life include: 

  • Breathing and breathwork
  • Tapping my fingers together (especially my thumb and index finger)
  • Exercise (like yoga, pilates, or anything you enjoy doing in your body!)
  • Feeling my feet on the floor anytime I’m sitting or standing
  • Reiki and energy healing
  • Walking barefoot outside (aka earthing) and spending time in nature
  • Moving slowly and intentionally
  • Noticing when I’m using my phone too much and consciously putting it away! (that’s a really tough one sometimes but it feels very freeing to do this)

Staying present is a journey that takes time. Being here and alive in one’s body can be a truly joyful experience. We are alive on earth to experience this world and to take in all that life has to offer. Being present in your life is a first step to being happy in your life. 

We need you here.

Forgiving Small Slights

The people around us are only human. We are also only human! From time to time, people may say or do something hurtful, such as saying a harsh comment, forgetting to invite you to something, or any number of things. It’s ok to forgive them. In fact, it’s excellent to forgive them. Jesus said we should forgive others “70 times 7 times,” a symbolic number meaning endlessly.

For much of my life I’ve been a silent grudge-holder, remembering many slights from others and secretly replaying them in my mind. That doesn’t lead anyone to love or peace or friendship, and only left me exhausted. Now, I’m working on just letting it go. I let it go because I love myself, and I am learning that nothing anyone says or does can diminish me in God’s eyes. 

If someone says or does something that offends, forgive them. If someone accidentally hurts you today, let it go. Return to your center and to love. We are all here working out our own difficulties and walking our own paths. Remember the times you may have offended others, and how kind it felt if they forgave you. Let yourself be this beacon for another and forgive them. Restore your heart to love and see past the foibles of others.