Judging others puts distance between us and other people, an easy protection mechanism that makes us feel safe and apart from things we don’t understand. It might seem like an easy path, but others don’t need our judgment. They need our compassion, our love, and our patience.
“Judge not, lest ye be judged” has a correlate in Conversations with God: “what you judge, you become.” It’s not the only reason to stop judging others, but it is a pretty motivating one! Several times in my life I’ve found myself judging people only to find myself in that exact situation months or years later.
I’ve gotten better over the years at not judging others. When I’m connected to love in my heart and coming from a place of compassion, there is no room for judgment. It starts with loving myself and letting God’s love in. When I am full of love for all aspects of myself, then I’m full of love for all aspects of others, and there is no room to judge. Why judge another? We don’t know where they come from or what they’re going through, no matter how they’re showing up to us in that moment. Approach them with love.