I have written on this topic before, but it always deserves to be mentioned again. It’s so important and can also be so difficult to honor yourself. What does it mean to honor yourself? To me, it means to take care of my heart, to protect and care for it, and to keep myself safe and loved.
Often, honoring myself comes up in relationships, where I have a tendency to be taken advantage of. I can be too giving, and I have a pattern of letting people into my life who can be self-centered and even mean. I know I play a role in all of this, too, and I know I pattern these relationships after the primary relationships in my family. I also believe it’s a huge area of exploration for me.
In these types of relationships, I’m learning to honor myself by creating healthy boundaries, and by loving myself even when I’ve been told the opposite. As always, it helps me to know that I am loved by God and that my heart is part of God’s heart. When I am quiet and let God’s love in, I heal my heart. Then it’s easy to honor myself.
And I don’t believe it’s selfish, even though it can sound that way. By honoring myself I can truly honor others in a way that is whole and honest and true, and the circle is complete.