Thank you to all my new readers and for people who’ve started following this blog! I’m very grateful for you! It took me a lot of courage to begin writing this blog and I am so happy to all of you who are along for the ride.
Even though I’m telling my story, and I’m grateful to you for reading it, your story is important too. Your story is beautiful. The parts of your story that seem mundane to you or even embarrassing, might be the most important and healing to someone else. I hope that if you’re feeling the itch to start writing or sharing your story, that you will do so. You never know how what you share may affect another’s life for the better.
One of the big healers I love and follow, Iyanla Vazant, says this: “It’s important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story.”
Sending you blessings to share your own story today, in whatever way makes you feel good.
As I write to you, I’m sitting outside in our pocket of the city, listening to birds begin their chirping and watching the sunlight begin to brighten the sky. Though we live in an industrial city, I’m grateful for the pocket of nature we’ve created for ourselves. It’s never far from my mind that this land was once a forest populated by First Peoples who lived in greater harmony with the land. Though I live in this now-industrial city in a capitalistic society, nature is still here. Nature comes from God. Following the breath of nature puts us in touch with the heart of God.
Growing up, I did not know how out of touch I was with nature until I learned how to be in touch with it. My stepdad in particular taught me so much about being in touch with trees and all things growing, and how to have a true respect for the land. He taught me about the four directions, plants to eat and use, how to plant seeds with care and love, and how to care for and be in touch with the earth. Until that time I had such a profound disconnection from nature that mirrored my disconnection from myself and my heart.
Environmental news these days can be devastating, but it is not the end. We are still here. We still have a chance each day to connect and care for nature. If you live in a city, is there are park nearby? Can you visit public lands? Plant beautiful houseplants? I find the most effective connection I make to nature is when I care for the small land around me by gardening and looking after the birds that make their homes in the trees around us. Let nature guide you by spending time in whatever natural habitat you can get to. You will feel your heart open and your breath slow. Nature comes from God. Nature heals.
Though this is not a political blog, it’s hard to separate politics from healing when there seems to be so much need for healing in our current political climate. No matter what country you live in, there seem to be so many issues rearing their heads, from nationalism, to economic inequality, to anti-immigrant policies. And yet, each day there is something to celebrate. Each day people are still fighting for the good. And each day is a chance for me to remember that the greatest shift happens within.
What if all politicians and all people came to realize that there is only one of us? That would pretty quickly solve a lot of our problems. If we saw ourselves in everyone else we would never be able to hurt other people, leave them starving, try to kick them out of our country, and worse. I truly do believe healing and developing one’s consciousness is one of the most important steps we can take to further the human race. There is only one of us.
I was not raised to believe that there is only one of us. I was raised to see separation and competition, even in my own small life on this planet. As I healed, I had very profound experiences of seeing other people, completely random other people, even everyone I encountered, as being fully human, full of light, and my siblings. Those experiences are not easy to forget. Would that every person could see the full humanness of each of us. We would heal our planet much more quickly than we have been.
I admit that sometimes it is hard to see the good in people and things around us. We live in a beautiful world that is also full of pain, hardship, and suffering. Is it trite or even cruel to see the good when we know others are suffering? In my own life, I have found it’s always good to see the good, not in order to deny the bad or difficult, but to allow the good to grow.
I would not have healed if everyone around me were only seeing the negative in the world. I needed visionaries who could see past pain and see beauty and love in me, and in the world around me. I held onto those people’s conceptions until I could walk into them too. These people saw love in me, where I saw sadness and woundedness. They saw meaning in my trauma, where I saw chaos. It is possible to see good in the world. It is also possible to be honest about the areas of your life and our world that need healing and attention. They aren’t mutually exclusive.
Seeing the good for me truly comes from a place of being in touch with God and love in my heart. I clear away the clutter of my mind and my thoughts and sit in that place of peaceful love. There, things are at peace, and I am at peace. It’s easier to see the good from there and easier to allow it to grow. I believe the world and all people are basically good. It comes from the heart.
A concept that’s come up again and again in my life has been trusting in God’s timing. There have been so many times when I’ve wanted something so badly and had to wait for what seemed like no reason, because the circumstances just weren’t right yet. I’ve had to prepare, give it my best, and then be patient. And then, when the time was right, though I couldn’t have pinpointed why, that thing I was waiting for came to fruition.
The metaphor of a garden is probably overused, but only because it’s so relevant to healing and to God. Fruit can’t ripen before its time. It requires good soil, sun, and water, but it still needs time to grow and become. That process can’t be rushed. It requires patience. Last week my 2-year-old daughter saw our first tomato on our tomato plant, still small and green. Though we’d discussed about waiting until it was ready to pick it, when I turned my back, she picked it. It was green, and it wasn’t delicious yet.
As in the garden, so in life. We must prepare ourselves for those things we are working towards by giving them our best efforts, but we can’t force the growth or the flow. All conditions must be ready and ripe for that which you wish for to make its way into your life. God is good. God knows the right time. It will happen in God’s time. Trust it.
Judging others puts distance between us and other people, an easy protection mechanism that makes us feel safe and apart from things we don’t understand. It might seem like an easy path, but others don’t need our judgment. They need our compassion, our love, and our patience.
“Judge not, lest ye be judged” has a correlate in Conversations with God: “what you judge, you become.” It’s not the only reason to stop judging others, but it is a pretty motivating one! Several times in my life I’ve found myself judging people only to find myself in that exact situation months or years later.
I’ve gotten better over the years at not judging others. When I’m connected to love in my heart and coming from a place of compassion, there is no room for judgment. It starts with loving myself and letting God’s love in. When I am full of love for all aspects of myself, then I’m full of love for all aspects of others, and there is no room to judge. Why judge another? We don’t know where they come from or what they’re going through, no matter how they’re showing up to us in that moment. Approach them with love.
To live in a high vibration means to be connected to your true heart- to love, joy, and peace. When I think of raising my vibration I think of times when I’ve felt very happy and free. It didn’t have much to do with my external surroundings. It mostly had to do with how much I was connecting my heart to the heart of God, and how much I was letting go of behaviors and thought patterns that distanced me from that peace.
The truth of you, your soul and essence, already lives at a high vibration. How can you connect to your original God self? Different things work for different people. It always helps me to pray and meditate. It helps me to get an energy healing. There are many people in my daily life who don’t believe in energy healing. I simply like to think of it as a shower for your energetic body. You get dirt and grime on yourself and take a shower. Likewise, you can get emotional and energetic buildup from all kinds of things in your daily world and need a Reiki treatment or energy healing. They can be so powerful and have truly helped me on many points of my journey. Aside from prayer, meditation and energy healing, it helps me to pay attention to any unhealthy thought patterns and let them go. It also helps me to eat healthy, “clean” foods as much as possible.
Living from a high vibration can feel amazing. It can put you in touch with who you’re meant to be, and who you truly are. In our world that can seem so far from peace, it can also help build peace. Your connection to source and love can also help others connect to their own source and love. I wish you a high vibration of love today and every day.